Love is blind and not easy to find. And I couldn’t say this with any greater conviction but it doesn’t come to those who wait. Or at least wait for too long. “Har ishq ka waqt hota hai” and all the jazz we hear in the movies very rarely applies in real life. And we know this well. Too well, in fact. And here’s where we tend to drift off the point at times.
It’s not like love doesn’t come to us. It does. Cupid strikes. But we, like idiots, strike back and fight.
Our guard goes up, our inhibitions kick in and we end up sulking alone, thinking about what could have been a happily ever after if only we had shown courage.
And that’s not the worst part. Most often, we don’t even realize that we’ve brutally murdered Cupid.
Someone amazing enters our life and we start singing in the shower again. We smile more. Life starts feeling awesome again. Song on our lips, smile on our face and all that jazz.
But then something ridiculous happens, some chemical locha in our heads and things start falling apart before they even begin. Why? Ever stopped to think this through? Our soulmate has arrived. And somehow, so has our ego. Our problems. Our ex-stories. And our heartbreaks.
Why do we not tell the person we might have fallen head over heels for, about our feelings? Why don’t we just open our mouths and communicate?
Even if it’s still at a nascent stage, where we simply like that person and aren’t completely sure about our feelings, why not give it a try, talk it out, and see where things go? We don’t know what the future holds, but we could definitely give it a try and hope for the best.
Instead, we fight our feelings and ourselves. We tell ourselves: “No! Now is not the time. Career, life, too many things to take care of.” Right?
Very often, we expect the one we love to understand how we feel, without even telling the person about our true feelings! Tell me, how is it fair? How will that person know what you feel if you decide to engage in a battle of “you first” instead of communicating your true feelings?
Why are we so afraid to take the plunge? It’s a risk, I know. But we need to take risks if we want to get somewhere in life.
What is the worst that could happen? That the person wouldn’t reciprocate the same feelings? So what?
What doesn’t kill us only makes us stronger! But if we don’t even take the first step, all we’d be left with is a lifetime of regret! Do we honestly want that?
What if the person we’ve fallen for happens to feel the same way? Imagine that!
Just think about all the ways in which your life would change if only you take this one solid leap of faith. A little bit of optimism could go a long way.
Honestly, it’s quite simple. Just speak your heart out and wait for a reply.
You love spending time with this person. You cancel your usual plans for this person. You cannot stop blushing/ smiling when this person is around. Your friends keep telling you about how you’ve changed. Dude! You’re in love. What the hell are you waiting for?
Because the truth is, if you don’t take the right step at the right time, someone else will. And trust me, that will hurt more.
This is our biggest problem. When we have it, we don’t appreciate it. We don’t make a move. When we don’t, we want it all the more. It’s simply not done. Not fair on you or the person you’re into.
All we really need to do is let it all go and fall in love. Because love is a beautiful mystery. A beautiful feeling to cherish for as long as it lasts.